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We Should Have Known Sooner

SearchingEvery year, when Braxton’s birthday rolls around, I am full of emotions as I look back on our journey and see how far we’ve come.  This year, that is paired with all of our annual appointments with doctors we haven’t seen in 6 months to a year.  Some still didn’t know Braxton had finally received a diagnosis.

 

 

Doctor: “Did you all ever receive any additional information about a possible diagnosis?”

Me: “Oh, yes we did.  Braxton has Rubinstein-Taybi Syndrome.” 

Doctor: “Oh yea? I have a few patients with that.”

Me: “Umm..that you see currently?”

Doctor: “Absolutely.”

That has been the conversation at more appointments recently than I even want to tell you.  The doctor then proceeds to tell me about all of the things kids with RTS are at risk for from their specialty standpoint.  Outwardly, I am thankful they have heard of RTS and know what to expect.  Inwardly, I’m  furious and screaming.  You knew about RTS? You KNEW this whole time? The WHOLE TIME?! Why on Earth wouldn’t you have said anything before? Did you ever even look at my child!? Just a series of completely flabbergasted questions.

Almost ALL of our specialists very nonchalantly have said they are familiar with RTS and spout off all of these things about other patients.  Our anesthesiologist at Braxton’s tonsillectomy guessed RTS just from looking at the symptoms on Braxton’s chart.  Huh? So why did it take us 2 years to find out!?

I wish I knew why it took so long.  I guess, we know Braxton doesn’t fit “in the box” exactly, but is it really necessary for a child to check off every symptom before a doctor comes to a diagnosis? There was always enough information to make the diagnosis, but it was overlooked.  Even when it was brought directly to their attention, the doctor said “Welllll….he doesn’t really fit because x, y, and z” So because Braxton did not check off a few specific symptoms, we were left in the dark.

Yes, I am thankful and relieved to finally have an answer NOW, but do you know how nice it would have been to know earlier? It would have saved so much fear and heartache.  Sleepless nights where I sat up and watched Braxton sleep, just hoping that he wouldn’t stop breathing or be taken away from us as the doctor’s predicted.  Tireless hours of researching and contacting other parents.  Appointment after appointment where doctors just scratched their head and said come back in 6 months, we’ll see what’s developed.  The NICU doctor didn’t give my kid a month to live and you want me to wait six? What if we don’t have that long?

Braxton looks just like so many other kids with RTS, why didn’t anyone notice it before? Especially when they are currently seeing patients with the same diagnosis.  All RTS kiddos look like they could be related.  Sure, you see some of their parents in them, but their resemblance to one another is striking.

To me, there is no reason why another doctor could not have even hinted at this diagnosis. They spout off statistics and potential problems on a whim, so it’s not like RTS is so rare and unknown to them that they could not have suspected it enough to tell me.  This is the part that is so frustrating to me about our medical system.  Don’t get me wrong, I really love all of our doctors and they have done so much for us, but they’ve also let us down.  When yet another doctor tells me about the MULTIPLE patients they see, I can’t help but be frustrated and upset.

I think that is another reason why I have been so passionate about this Undiagnosed documentary.  Knowing that there are other patients out there like us, who end up being diagnosed with something that is uncommon, but something that there is enough information available for that shouldn’t require such a prolonged diagnostic journey (be it 2 years or 7).  With more awareness and a greater understanding of what life is like, the fears we face, and the struggles we have, maybe the medical community would move toward better networking and the development of an Undiagnosed Disease Registry.  These are things that could save a child’s life and spare a parent the fear of the uncertainty the future might hold, yet they don’t exist.

I am so hopeful for this film and hope that it comes to fruition. And while I don’t think our journey should have taken so long, I’m thankful for the road we have walked because now I can help others and be a voice for them.  Perhaps, like everything in our life, our journey was prolonged for a purpose. I hope that I am fulfilling that purpose through sharing our story and being an advocate for my son and the countless families who have walked this path before me and those who will follow.

 

 

 

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Braxton’s Birthday Project

Can you believe Braxton is going to be 3 years old already?! Time has flown by and our little man has certainly come a long way!

Every year, we have some very nice people who contact us via our blog or Facebook to ask for an address to send cards or gifts to Braxton on his Birthday or for Holidays.  While we are very appreciative of such kindness, this year, we’d rather you do something a little different to honor Braxton on his birthday.  Without further ado, here is this year’s project for Braxton’s 3rd Birthday, which is on June 24th!

Braxton's Birthday Mission

 

Braxton’s birthday theme this year is Superheroes and with that in mind, you have all just been given a Top Secret Mission.  Only, it’s not so secret! We encourage you to share this far and wide to spread some kindness and tap in to your own super powers.

This year, if you are not local, instead of sending Braxton a card or gift, we are asking that you make a donation in his honor to one of the organizations who has touched our life deeply. Any amount is appreciated! Even $5 can go a long way.  If everyone gives a little, it adds up to a lot that these organizations can do for their community.  These are the organizations we’ve chosen:

U.R. Our Hope

U.R. Our Hope – U.R. Our Hope is a registered 501 (c)(3) non-profit based in Austin, TX that assists families on the journey to finding a diagnosis or helps them navigate the healthcare system with a rare diagnosis.  They provide meals for families during hospitalizations, help facilitate research and medical referrals, provide gift cards to families traveling for medical appointments, and are hoping to raise money to gift Whole Exome Sequencing to families still searching for a diagnosis.  U.R. Our Hope was instrumental in not only helping us find a diagnosis, but helping us connect with other families.  That face-to-face support was exactly what I needed to cope and empowered me to be the mom you all admire now.  I was very scared and alone at the beginning of this journey, but with the help of U.R. Our Hope I found my footing and have now helped others walk the path as well. I’ve also been honored to be a member of the board of directors for the past year. Although we have now found a diagnosis, we are forever indebted to U.R. Our Hope and hope you will consider supporting them as they have helped us.

Undiagnosed Documentary

Undiagnosed: Medical Refugees – This is the documentary we were honored to be a part of this year.  We were able to share our diagnostic journey with the team to help others understand why finding a diagnosis is so important.  Countless families are struggling to find a diagnosis and sadly, some have lost their children without ever knowing the reason.  Our journey was MUCH shorter than average and I’m so grateful for the help we’ve had along the way.  This documentary would be so revolutionary and change the way medicine is practiced today.  A donation to the film would go toward helping them complete the project so that the world can learn what we have experienced firsthand.

Special Friends Foundation

Special Friends Foundation – Special Friends is also a registered 501 (c)(3) organization who serves families with Rubinstein-Taybi Syndrome, which is Braxton’s diagnosis.  Special Friends provides financial assistance with medical bills, uncovered medical expenses, special therapies, augmentative communication and so much more.  A donation to them would help the fellow members of our RTS family.

Tinysuperheroes

Tinysuperheroes – This extraordinary organization provides capes for children fighting big battles. Capes are sent to children battling life threatening illnesses, lifelong disabilities, and other chronic medical conditions.  Parents of children with special needs already see their children as superheroes and a cape shows the rest of the world just how strong our kids are.  Braxton received his cape last year and has seen him through surgeries and doctors appointments.  You can empower a Tinysuperhero for just $35! There are so many waiting to receive their cape.

Sammy’s House Austin

Sammy’s House Austin – Last, but certainly not least, is Braxton’s amazing daycare.  Sammy’s House is also a registered 501 (c)(3) non-profit organization.  They provide childcare services for children who are medically complex.  When our daycare closed last August, I could not find a provider who would take Braxton and that I trusted with his medical care.  Sammy’s was a godsend.  Their director lost a child to Down Syndrome many years ago and he was the inspiration behind Sammy’s House.  She, too, could not find a provider she could trust or who had enough experience to work with her medically complex child, so she started a center all on her own.  Sammy’s operates entirely off of donations and serves children with a variety of disabilities.  When Braxton started last August he was crawling and pulling up to stand, but had minimal cruising and no desire to walk.  In 9 months, Braxton has made tremendous progress! He is walking with minimal assistance, cruising longer distances, eating by mouth, understanding language a lot more, and just overall growing every day.  The staff is constantly pushing the kids to unlock their full potential and have done wonders for Braxton.  A donation to this organization ensures that other kids can reach their potential as Braxton has and continues to do.

 

 

We appreciate all of you for loving and supporting Braxton along this journey.  While we love the cards and gifts, Braxton already has so much and we would love to spread the generosity.  These organizations have all touched our life in one way or another and it would mean the world to us if you could spare a few dollars to one, two or all of them! I don’t need proof of your kindness, but when you donate to any of the organizations, please make sure to leave a note that your donation is in honor of Braxton so that they know who sent you.

We hope you will join in this mission and open your hearts!

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