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Why Braxton’s Dad Rocks

Day in and day out, Joseph proves to be an awesome father to Braxton and his sister.  He doesn’t always get the credit he deserves, but we are so grateful and appreciate everything he does for us!

So, In honor of Father’s Day, here are just a few of the countless reasons why Braxton’s Dad rocks!

1. Braxton’s smile is never bigger than when he is with his Daddy.

Braxton with Dad

2. Dad isn’t afraid to get down and let Braxton “wrestle” him to the ground.

3. Bath time is always more fun with Dad.

Bath Time

4. Dad sings all kinds of silly songs to Braxton all day long.

5. Dad makes super cool airplane noises when feeding Braxton.

6. The love of music is deep inside both of them.

Music with Dad


7. Dad takes Braxton to school when he is home, so that mom can sleep a little bit extra.

8. Walking with Dad is the best.


9. Dad will do anything (no matter how silly he looks) just to make Braxton laugh.

10. Dad always finds the coolest toys!


11. Dad, without fail, makes sure Braxton gets plenty of fluids via g-tube.

12. Dad pushes Braxton around in his toy cars over and over because Braxton loves it.

13. Dad is a diaper changing ninja!

14. Dad is always full of fun, love, and laughter!

15. There is no love greater than the love Joseph has for Braxton.



There are many, many other reasons why Braxton’s dad is amazing, but I don’t think we have enough space to host them all here on WordPress.  😉

Happy Fathers Day to all of the amazing fathers out there!

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An Ode to Dad

Happy Father's to Braxton's Dad!

Happy Father’s Day to Braxton’s Dad!

Today, we celebrate all of the wonderful fathers in our lives for all the love, support and awesomeness that they bring in to our lives.

Dad is usually the go to guy when it comes to having fun, and in our house it’s no different.  Joseph is definitely the funnier of the pair and he has an amazing ability to keep all of us smiling and laughing.  There is something about watching a man get down on the kids level and act like a complete goofball that makes you fall in love with him all over again, just when you thought you couldn’t love him anymore.

Over the past few years, Joseph has been an amazing stepdad to Aileen, taking her in as his own.  And then when we had a child together, much to our surprise, that child was born with a load of medical issues that would forever change the path we had set forth for ourselves.

There are many men who would have turned and walked away.  It’s a very sad story, but having a child with special needs strains a relationship to the brink of destruction.  And yes, it was difficult for us at times, but from day one, Joseph was there by my side.  He followed the ambulance as Braxton was transported to NICU at another hospital and talked to the doctor as Braxton was admitted.  He held it together when I was falling apart. He heard the doctor say Braxton wouldn’t make it 2 weeks, but held it inside because he knew it would devastate me.  He drove us to the hospital every day and sat with Braxton for as long as I wanted to be there.  He was there when Braxton had his first surgery to get his G-Tube placed holding my hand and telling me it would all be ok.  Scared as we were, he learned everything he needed to take care of Braxton.  Thankfully, with his job, he is home for at least a week at a time and instead of sending Braxton to daycare during that time, he keeps Braxton at home with him.  That extra bonding means the world to both of them and I’m so grateful that I have a man willing to do that. He has such a big heart and is truly an incredible father.

People always tell me how strong I am and ask how I could do all that I do, and the answer is that I don’t do it alone.  Joseph is my other half and it is with him that I am able to do all that I can.  Sometimes he doesn’t get enough credit for being the great dad that he is. He helps me like you wouldn’t believe, whether it’s cooking dinner or doing laundry, or taking Braxton to the doctor so that I can go to work for at least part of the day.  He takes Aileen to practice t-ball, takes her to the park, or just sits and wrestles with her when she wants to be silly.  I may be the face and the writer, but behind the scenes, my partner is equally as awesome.

Today and every day, I am thankful for the man who has been put in my life to be my partner through all the ups and downs life has to give us.  Together, we have faced the most difficult of times and have come out stronger than ever before.  Raising a child with special needs is definitely not easy, but when you have a partner to help you through it all, it sure makes the road a little less bumpy.

So today, I wish Joseph and all the amazing fathers of children with special needs a very Happy Father’s Day! Sometimes you don’t get the credit you deserve, but trust me, it does not go unnoticed.  Mom’s around the world thank you for all that you do. Keep up the great work, dads!

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This blog on our lives – Dad’s thoughts

I very rarely get on here to post my own personal opinions about certain subjects.  I normally let Vanessa do the talking as she is a much better writer than myself.  I can’t begin to thank you enough for showing interest in our son.  I will admit that it is hard to explain to people what is wrong with my son when I feel that there is nothing wrong.  The kid smiles, rarely cries, and is so motivated to learn new things that I don’t see his age, but rather his progress.  This is my first child.  So therefore everything he has done is a blessing.  The kid could barely crawl and now this dude is in the kitchen climbing up the pantry shelves trying to get candy.  Ok, so maybe that last little bit was a lie, but you get my point.  Back to the reason I am writing this blog.  I have seen such a HUGE improvement with Vanessa.  Not at all saying that she was crazy before, well… let’s not get into that PARTICULAR subject haha.  But, I honestly see an improvement on her outlook.  We can turn this unexpected reality into a blessing that no person could have ever imagined.  Her ability to reach out and help other people has just blown me away.   Her knowledge continues to grow on all of Braxton’s conditions.  I feel that I need to my handy dandy notebook around when she talks just in case there is a quiz later on this sermon.  HAHA.  I really mean it when I say thank you to everyone who reads and comments on this blog.  I know she is one dedicated person, especially to my son.  When she was breast feeding she would wake up every 4 hours to pump just so he had the proper nutrition.  This went on for over 9 months.  I was PRAYING for the day that she would be able to sleep longer than 3-4 hours.  She is similar to me in the fact that when we don’t have much sleep and we are hungry…well…Godzilla seems to come out in us and we attack the city.  😀 So when this blog came around I was all for it.  I know her being able to release her emotions and concerns has helped a lot because everyone needs to find some way to release their feelings.  This blended diet has been the best thing for Braxton which proves that formula is not always the best thing for a child.  I recommend it to anyone who is having problems feeding their children without throwing up.  I used to get an evil eye from people that would stare at my son while i feed him with a syringe.  I wanted to stand up and yell out “What are you looking at you ignorant MF!!”  But, then I realized that some people were never taught proper manners and are naive to think that feeding through a tube is so “special.” I honestly am all for the tube.  I think that it is a great thing.  I find out too that this is not uncommon either.   We have gone to meetings where the families talk about losing their son at 4-6 years old from an undiagnosed syndrome. 4-6 years old!!  That is horrible!  I can’t even begin to imagine their pain.  So if my son needs to be feed through a tube for all to see then so be it.  I am finding that is could be much worse so in stead of focusing on the negative, I need to focus on the positive. The kid laughs, smiles, and tolerates more than the average kid and I am proud to say that I am his father.  I fear him going to school and being teased about whatever his condition may be.  Hopefully the tube is out by then, but who knows.  I know his hearing loss is probably from my side of the family as I had hearing problems as a child also.  I know one thing tho, music is in his blood.  As son as I start to play some melody for him on piano he will stop, look, listen, and fall asleep.  I keep getting way off topic which is a very common thing for me.  I apologize.  So with all being said I appreciate all of you guys.  Some of you are old high school friends of mine and some of you are people I have never met.  All I know is that you guys have given Vanessa the strength to carry on in a normal happy life.  I appreciate that and will continue to do anything I can to help our family live as “normal” of a life as possible.  Now that I said that I don’t mean that.  About the “normal” thing.  IF anyone knows me then they know that I am not normal LOL. I just pray that we live the lives that God planned for us to.  There is a reason behind everything even if we don’t see the miracle yet.  So thank you and I hope you continue to keep up to date with these blogs.

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