Hello, 2013!! I really dislike making resolutions…mostly because I’m a hard critic on myself and if I fall short I just beat myself up over it. So, instead of setting myself up for disappointment I like to set small, attainable goals to reach before the end of the year. I don’t usually share them, but this year they mostly deal with my kids and my parenting decisions so I decided to share them with you all.
Goals for Braxton – he doesn’t know it yet, but I have big plans for him this year! 😉
- Talking – whether it’s actual speech or simple sign language, I hope to get Braxton communicating with us by the end of the year. Right now most of his babble has no meaning to him, and although he often says “mama” or “dada” it would be nice for those sounds to have actual meaning and be more than just sounds. Hopefully, we can get him saying at least 50 words by the end of the year. [Speaking OR signing]
- Eating – Having the G-tube taken out by the end of the year is a long shot, but I hope to have Braxton at least eating MOST of his food and drinking from a cup before the year is over. I think that is more than attainable.
- Interactive Play – Braxton loves to hear “Row, Row, Row Your Boat” as we gently rock him back and forth, but it would be nice for him to initiate the movement more on his own. Even playing patty cake with him would be more fun if he was able to clap his hands together throughout the song. Hopefully, by the end of the year we’ll see more interaction between him and us.
- Walking! – This is totally attainable!! I know he wants to so badly, but he’s not there just yet. Braxton is pulling up to stand, and Physical Therapy is currently working on cruising and I’ve caught him take a few side steps on his own. This is one determined little boy, so I’m certain he’ll be walking and running before the year is over.
- Through these goals, he will accomplish a range of fine motor and cognitive skills as he works toward these, and I can’t wait to see his progress. There are lots of little goals we want to meet, and I know he will soon!
Goals for Aileen
- This HAS to be the year she sleeps in her own bed! She usually only sleeps with me when Joseph is gone, but it’s time for her to be a big girl. I know there will come a day when she wants nothing to do with me, and that’s why I’ve let her sleep with me so long, but I want my bed back! Maybe a little selfish, but I hope this helps her find more strength and independence. She tends to be scared easily at times and teaching her to be strong enough to sleep in her own bed I think will help her in the long run.
- Handwriting! – This is something I HAVE to help her with. Compared to other kids in her class, her handwriting is one of the worst! 😦 She loves to read and tell stories, so we’ll work on handwriting by having her WRITE her stories and practice in fun ways instead of ways that seem like more work.
- Reading – Aileen LOVES to read, so I just want to strengthen her skills and maybe have her work her way up to reading Braxton a bedtime story daily.
- Behavior – Aileen is pretty good, but she still has outbursts and tantrums that we’ve got to get under control. I also have to stick with it! I get a little lax, so I need to find something that I can keep up and that encourages her good behavior.
- She’s such a bright little girl and is on the right track in so many ways, I just hope to help her continue to learn and grow.
- We all try to do our best to be the parents our children need, but by our own standards, sometimes we fall short. I feel that I’m great with keeping my kids on schedules and doing all the things we HAVE to do, but I know I can work a little harder at fostering better relationships with my kids.
- Get Unplugged – Technology is great, but it can also be detrimental in so many ways. I’m still a fairly young parent and my generation is heavily plugged in to technology and social media, and I will admit that I’m guilty of sometimes being more plugged in to my tech gadgets than my kids. This year I hope to “unplug” and spend more quality time with my kids where they have my undivided attention.
- Get Active – I don’t mean that I’m going to run out and join a gym, but the whole family can stand to turn off the TV and get outside a little more. This year I hope to finally teach Aileen to really ride a bike (without training wheels) and do more with her outside and show her there is more to life than Disney and Nickelodeon. If I could get her to turn off the TV completely, that would be phenomenal!! [Highly unlikely, but a mom can dream 😉 ]
- Distribute my time better- With all of the issues Braxton has going on, I’ve often found myself more involved in his life and less in Aileen’s. She had me all to herself for 5 years, so having to share me has been difficult, and I realize the importance of the time she’s lost. I hope to find a better balance in being a parent of 2 kids. I hope to spend equal time with them and even possibly take Aileen out more for a little one-on-one time. I think she’d love to do “big girl” things without having little brother come along.
- I have some more personal goals I’d like to work on, but for now this is what I’m willing to share.
Instead of “resolving” to do all of the above, I’ll simply say that I HOPE to accomplish most, if not all, of these goals in 2013, and if I don’t, I promise not to criticize myself. They are all attainable, so there are no excuses.
Cheers, to goal setting in 2013!